How to Calm a Crying Baby: You’re Not a Bad Parent! (We Promise)

Every parent has been there at 3 a.m.: your baby is crying and you have tried everything. Just know that you are not a bad parent! Today, we want to talk about ways to soothe your, fussy little tyke.

First, let’s go through the checklist to cover the bases:

- Is your baby hungry, wet or sleepy?

- Is your baby too hot or too cold?

- Is your baby uncomfortable or too tight in a blanket or clothing?

If not, let’s walk through the Five S’s:

·      Side/Stomach Position: Try the “football hold.” This position provokes a calming response, which may help your baby. Remember to always place your baby on their back to sleep.

·      Shushing: This is white noise; a soft shushing sound imitates similar sounds heard in the womb. Try singing or speaking softly or use soft music.

·      Swinging: Short gentle motions can help soothe the baby. Sit in a rocking chair or stand and sway slowly.

·      Swaddling: Get the baby’s attention by suppressing the “moro reflex” (arms jerking in the air).

·      Sucking: Breastfeeding is a lovely way to relax the baby, but try the other four S’s first!

What if the crying does not stop?

When in doubt, call your pediatrician. Your baby may be sick or injured. Sometimes the baby is just fussy and there is no reason to be worried!

If you are getting frustrated, get help from someone you trust (family or friend) or place baby in their crib on their back and take a break – wash your face, drink some water or just simply breathe. Never take your frustration out on a baby.

Here are links to more helpful resources:

- Download Fussy Baby. This is a great one-sheet resource to print and keep near – including 24/7 help line!

- It’s not easy being a parent! Visit helpsandhope.org for more tips and safety checks.

- Click here to watch a video about how to calm a crying baby.

For a free child sleep expectations guide, visit Strong Little Sleeper. The expert behind this is Lori Strong, a certified Pediatric Sleep Consultant and Certified Happiest Baby Educator. 

This blog was written by Darlene Lundquist, RN, Community Health Worker, Labor of Love and Mia De lenno, CNA, Community Health Student Intern, Labor of Love.